2020 has tested our mental health and wellbeing, we have had to adapt the way we communicate, run our businesses and manage our households. We have been thrown into a flurry of zoom calls, virtual meet-ups and as a nation we are spending more time online than ever before.

 

The lines between work and home life are blurred, so with this in mind, how can we protect our mental health and strive for a more balanced lifestyle?

 

Wellbeing is essential to success. Burnout, overwhelm and stress will ruin your business if you allow it. 

 

Whether you’re running a business, freelancing or hustling on the side of a full-time job, finding balance is something we all strive for but it’s not always possible. So how do we cope with the juggle, overwhelm and feelings of isolation?

 

Yesterday, (2.12.20) we hosted our ‘Confidence & Wellbeing’ panel in collaboration with Hatch Enterprise and were joined by three female Entrepreneurs:

We had an incredible  intimate and candid discussion including:

  • Imposter syndrome
  • Practical tips for confidence and overcoming your inner critic
  • Intentionality of mindset and investing into your personal growth and wellbeing
  • Wellbeing in business and how to strive for success without burning out

We sent out a survey to all attendees before the event and shared the results throughout the conversation. Survey results revealed that 100% of the women who took part said they suffered from imposter syndrome, 82% said they have experienced burnout and over 60% said social media impacted their levels of confidence. 

Here’s a snapshot of the conversation including some key takeaways from our panelists:

 

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MENTAL HEALTH

Q. The global pandemic has put an enormous strain on our mental health causing us to feel anxious and overwhelmed. Why do you think that is and how has it impacted you?

 

It’s clear that with redundancies, clients cutting back on budgets and the general uncertainty of the professional landscape, anxiety levels have been higher than usual. Not only that but with the rise in screen time and use of social media we are constantly bombarded with everyones elses success and it can be totally crippling at times. Especially if you’re having a bad day, week or month.  

 

“It’s important to remind yourself life is not perfect – I don’t need to be perfect. Life is a roller coaster and acceptance is so important during times like these. I had to decide if it was going to be post traumatic growth or stress – you come out stronger or stay stuck.” – Tiwalola Ogunlesi

 

“I took light from small things and focused on the positive – reframe things. Being outside helped and becoming a detective with every negative thought I had. I looked for proof to see if it was really true or just my mind playing tricks on me.” Julie Fedele 

 

“Pause and don’t feel guilty about slowing down, be kind to yourself. It’s ok to stand still, that is progress. Going out in nature also helps to take stock of things.” – Ncheta Dasilva

 

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COPING STRATEGIES

 

Q. I know we’re talking about 2020 specifically but what coping strategies have you used to get through this year (or any year that has tested you in some way?)

 

“Be intentional about your wellbeing and happiness”Tiwalola Ogunlesi

 

Tiwa went on to say she uses the five pillars of wellbeing to guide her through her daily practice.

 

Seligman’s PERMA Model

  • P – Positive Emotion
  • E – Engagement
  • R – Relationships
  • M – Meaning
  • A – Accomplishments

(More on this in the resources below)

Also remembering to move your body and laugh!

 

 

CONFIDENCE & IMPOSTER SYNDROME

 

Q. We all suffer with insecurities such as low confidence and imposter syndrome, how do you overcome them? Any practical steps or tips you can share?

(When we asked in our survey ‘which of the following do you feel impacts your confidence the most’? 60% of people said they felt social media impacted their confidence  and 40% said work did.)

 

“I journal every morning and reflect on the past day. I take the time to get to know myself and understand how I feel. With regards to imposter syndrome I ask myself, “If not me, then who?” find evidence as to why you aren’t good enough, you’ll most likely realise you are.”Julie Fedele

 

“Look in the mirror and say to yourself NAME – I love you  – I’m proud of you for/I forgive you for/I love you for…”Tiwalola Ogunlesi

 

“Ask your colleagues or friends for three words that they feel best describe you. You’ll find patterns start to form and that you’re pleasantly surprised about the feedback. You can then refer back to this when imposter syndrome strikes” – Ncheta Dasilva 

 

“I found I was so much happier when I redefined what success looked like for me. I love the quote by Maya Angelou – ‘success is liking who you are, liking what you do and liking how you do it’ – Tiwalola Ogunlesi

You must reframe what success looks like to you.

 

MINDSET

Q. How do you invest in your mindset and personal development and how do you create space?

 

(When asked – ‘What is your biggest challenge when it comes to your mindset?’ Loads of women said confidence,  resilience, fear of failing, perfectionism and limiting beliefs)

 

“Vision boarding and remind us of our ‘why’ is a great way of being able to think creatively and give ourselves the head space we need to reflect on what’s important to us both in our business and in life” – Ncheta Dasilva

 

“I invested time to really get to know myself and what made me tick. For me it’s taking an hour for myself every morning where u can be with my own company and really check in with how I feel.”  Julie Fedele

 

“Fear is just a negative thought of something in the future that hasn’t even happened yet. Rather than using the terms “What if…” and worrying about failing try to reframe it and ask yourself “What if I succeed?” Tiwalola Ogunlesi

 

OVERCOMING OVERWHLEM

 

Q. Finally, what practical tips and advice could you pass on to those who may feel overwhelmed with their workload PLUS any resources you’d like to share with the audience?

 

(Lots of women in our survey said they wanted tips for overcoming worry and having more balance in their lives.)

 

“Acknowledge what you want to do and what you don’t want to do. What are you good at and what can you delegate or outsource to someone else so you aren’t feeling so overwhelmed with all the talks and responsibilities you have within your business. Look into hiring interns, government grants, kickstart campaigns and cohorts that provide you with the support and resources you need to support you if you feel you can’t do it on your own.”  – Ncheta Dasilva

 

‘Ask yourself what you want to become, topics on her. What would she do? I evaluated my money, work and relationships earlier his year and paid some serious attention to the relationships I had with all areas of my life. I made some huge changes and I am way better of as a result”  Tiwalola Ogunlesi

 

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A huge thank you to our speakers:

 

And a big thanks also to our event partners:

 

Hatch EnterpriseIG @Hatchenterprise | Twitter @Hatchenterprise

 

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Lara Sheldrake

Lara Sheldrake

About your author

 

Lara Sheldrake is a business mentor, consultant and Founder at Found & Flourish. Lara writes and speaks on the topics of entrepreneurship, motherhood and social media for business. She also hosts the Bossing It podcast, aimed at empowering the next generation of womxn entrepreneurs in the UK. Send Lara an email. You can also find her on Instagram @Lara_Sheldrake or Twitter @Lara_Sheldrake.

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