Quitting my job with no back-up plan (part 2)
In this feature (Part 2), I talk about how I coped with aftermath of waking up 30 and jobless. I will also share some advice which I found really helpful during a time when I have never felt more lost and vulnerable. You can read Part 1 (why I quit my job), here.
After an amazing evening of birthday celebrations with my favourite people, I went to sleep on what felt like Cloud 9. The following day, it started to sink in.
- “I have no job”
- “I am not earning any money”
- “What have I done?”
- “What was I thinking?”
Over the following few weeks the feeling of elation subsided and the fear started to sink in again.
In an act of desperation, I looked for inspiring “self-help” quotes and saved all the motivational posts you can imagine… panic took over and I felt like I was sinking into the ground with no way of pulling myself back out.
I had to turn it around
I sat down with a friend, who consoled me while I cried like a baby. I felt so lost about everything. I didn’t even know where to start. I knew I had to turn it around but I had no idea how.
She sat me down and asked me to write a list of things that made me happy. Ten things that motivated me to get up each morning.
I wrote this list:
- Being healthy
- Helping others
- Working for myself
- Friends and Family
- Being active
- Being independent
- Having flexibility
- Work/life balance
Writing this list reminded me what I was truly passionate about.
I’ve heard numerous people say over the years, “ask the universe and it will answer”, many will have heard of Jim Carrey’s theory of manifestation.
Up until last year I didn’t believe in it myself, but by saying these things out loud and writing them down, I had caused a shift in my mindset.
Shortly after making this list I enrolled in a nutrition course, I set up my business and as a result I made more time for friends and family.
It was a tough few months (it’s still tough sometimes) and I’ll admit there were times when I wondered what the hell I was thinking. That said, I don’t regret a thing.
I wouldn’t advise anyone quit their job without a back-up plan, but if you’re reading this and wondering if it’s too late to change direction, I’m here to tell you it’s never too late.
Your happiness is the most important thing in all of this, and if it doesn’t make you happy, then what is the point?!
Happiness to me is having the freedom to see my loved ones when I want, freedom in my work without having to compromise my moral compass.
Happiness is having the freedom to be me. It’s being able to learn and develop my understanding of things that are important to me whilst still having the flexibility and time to exercise, move around, see people and earn money.
If it was easy everyone would do it
For anyone wanting to change careers, or to make a drastic change in their life, in the words of Robert Fritz, author of The Path of Least Resistance; “If you limit your choice only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is a compromise.”
A few step-by-step tips to make that leap of faith:
- Take a step back from whatever it is that is making you unhappy. Ask yourself “what do I need to remove from my life in order to be happy?”
- Write a list of the things that make you happy
- Stop making excuses
- Tell your friends and family that you’re unhappy and what it is you want to change.
- It’s ok to feel lost for a while. I did but it will motivate you to find something that makes you happy and excited about life again.
- Don’t be afraid to fail, the ones who have the biggest successes tend to be the ones with the most failures under their belt.
- Ask for help, tell people what you want to do
- Ask the universe, it sounds crazy but it works! Ask yourself and your surroundings to help you attract all the positive things you want to happen
- Write down your goals
- Remove anything negative from your life, be it habits, people etc
- Be patient and trust the timing
Wellbeing is key, healthy body = healthy mind. So look after your body and your mind should follow.
I know this all sounds a lot easier said than done, but it is all possible and I promise you, it will be worth it.
Sometimes pushing yourself out of your comfort zone is essential if you want to make a drastic change in your life. It seems scary at first, of course it does but have faith in your ability and believe you deserve better. Be brave enough to take a risk and don’t be afraid to fail. Failing is all part of discovering and learning.
You never need to “just settle”. Why would you? You only have one life. Whatever it is you really want to do, chances are, with some effort and determination you can do it.
We are incredibly adaptable creatures and when we put our minds to something we can achieve anything.
I wanted to share a few articles and videos I found truly inspirational in my darkest hour:
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